Comments on: Most people actually like to be needed http://www.njlindquist.com/most-people-actually-like-to-be-needed/ Mon, 30 Jan 2012 16:52:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Marilyn http://www.njlindquist.com/most-people-actually-like-to-be-needed/#comment-1048 Marilyn Tue, 05 Jan 2010 15:19:29 +0000 http://bluecollarwriter.com/?p=1005#comment-1048 The ability to ask for help is most definitely a muscle worth strengthening. I think you've set yourself a worthy goal! I am doing a lot of caregiving for a 90-year-old who cannot ask for help and she's gotten herself into some life-threatening situations that were totally avoidable. She simply could not overcome the barrier of SHAME that's attached to asking for assistance. As the commenter above said, it's a pride thing and the roots can go deep. Thanks for pointing out much others get out of being able to help. We are designed for community and keep trying to resist it. The ability to ask for help is most definitely a muscle worth strengthening. I think you’ve set yourself a worthy goal!

I am doing a lot of caregiving for a 90-year-old who cannot ask for help and she’s gotten herself into some life-threatening situations that were totally avoidable. She simply could not overcome the barrier of SHAME that’s attached to asking for assistance. As the commenter above said, it’s a pride thing and the roots can go deep.

Thanks for pointing out much others get out of being able to help. We are designed for community and keep trying to resist it.

]]> By: Marian den Boer http://www.njlindquist.com/most-people-actually-like-to-be-needed/#comment-1047 Marian den Boer Tue, 05 Jan 2010 13:07:40 +0000 http://bluecollarwriter.com/?p=1005#comment-1047 Like you said, "embarrassment...keeps us from asking." Pride is the barrier that keeps us apart. Like you said, “embarrassment…keeps us from asking.” Pride is the barrier that keeps us apart.

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